Even as an adult, people have interpreted my very structured manner of life as me being a control freak. That interpretation is totally incorrect. I do not attempt to control the behaviour of others (which is the definition of being a control freak); my goal in controlling my environment is to embed predictability into my life as predictability is the only way I have to control debilitating anxiety. So.... I am not bossy and I am not a control freak. I am just an Aspie trying to self regulate by regulating my own environment.
Friday, 26 September 2014
Bossy or what?
I can remember being told by my sister that she did not enjoy playing with me as a child because I was so bossy. On hearing that as an adult I was confused because I never felt capable of controlling even my own behaviour, let alone the behaviour of others.... Part of what I am learning in my Masters in Autism Studies is information about just how little match there is between behaviour and intent. I do not doubt that my behaviour appeared bossy, but my intent was to feel able to control my environment enough to avoid anxiety. A lack of structure is enough to create anxiety for me so it is vital to control the environment.
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